Here is a friendly, supportive and very educated website by Kim Cooper I recommend: www.narcissismcured.com. Key words. Parenting the adult: do not ask why, give a consequence. Seeing patterns clearly. Not going crazy. Listening to your own heart.
Married to Mr. Mean: This helps to pin-point and identify verbal abuse and knowing you are not crazy or making it up: http://married2mrmean.wordpress.com/2011/02/19/the-15-characteristics-of-verbal-abuse/
http://www.youtube.com/patriciaevansbooks about her book about verbal abuse
http://mermaidsofthelake.com/news.asp?id=352 characteristics and consequences of verbal abuse
http://www.amazon.com/Victory-Over-Verbal-Abuse-Reclaiming/dp/1440525803/ref=sr_1_1? s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1324528105&sr=1-1 link to buy a book about recovery from verbal abuse for $8 or more
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/228 how to spot a lier
http://labmf.org/facts/warning_signs characteristics of an abusive relationship